Why Can’t You Bring Yourself to Discuss Home Care Options with Mom?

By Marlene Diaz | March 31, 2017 |

Maybe you’re having a tough time right now dealing with the changes in your mother’s life. Whether she was hospitalized recently, is in her late 70s, 80s, or 90s and is really having trouble taking care of herself, or something else has come up, your time may be limited now you begin providing care and support for her.

Home Care Bellevue WA – Why Can’t You Bring Yourself to Discuss Home Care Options with Mom?

You know home care options are best.

You’re fully aware of the value in hiring a home care aide. You’ve done your research, talked to others who have gone through a similar situation with their aging parents, and you know you simply don’t have the time to devote to your mother that she needs.

One of the major hurdles to getting your mother the help she needs is you can’t seem to bring up the topic of home care with her. You think that by doing so you’re letting her down. Maybe she expects you to be her primary caregiver, but you know where that’s going to lead.

It can lead to problems in your relationship with her.

You may be extremely close to your mother, and you don’t want anything to get in between that relationship. Unfortunately, you know her personality and you know your own. You know they don’t mesh well, especially when you try to work with her on certain tasks.

Yet, she seems to expect you to be the one to take care of her. She may have even mentioned a few things, made a few comments to the effect of, “I don’t know what I would’ve done without you.” Those simple comments, even though they may be sincere compliments, can instill a great deal of guilt in family members who might be thinking of other options, which can include home care support services.

What you need to do now.

The best thing you can do right now for yourself and your own mental state of mind is to realize there are limitations to what you can do. There’s only so much you can do to help your mother in this situation.

If you try to do too much, the stress of being a family caregiver is going to take a toll on you. You will struggle in your life, in your work life, and in your own personal relationships. You also may be missing out on some great opportunities to support your mother in a way that maximizes her quality of life.

Learn as much as you can about home care options and when you do you will find the foundation upon which to discuss these with your mother.

If you or an aging loved one are considering Home Care Services in Bellevue WA, contact the caring staff at Hospitality Home Care today. Call us at (206) 966-6552.

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Marlene Diaz

Care Supervisor at Hospitality Home Care

Marlene brings to Hospitality Home Care's Care Supervisor Team an unprecedented level of passion for caring for others and a wealth of knowledge and understanding in the care services field. Marlene has worked in the healthcare field for more than 15 years in a variety of settings including, adult family home administration, home care HR supervising and working with specialty populations including dementia, mental health and developmental disabilities. Throughout this time Marlene has also maintained her caregiver credentials that she obtained as a teenager because, while her knowledge is best served helping to train caregivers and assist families to get the care they need, her heart is most fulfilled when she is providing care to others. When she is not in the office, you will most likely find Marlene caring for her family, or spending time with her friends.